It’s fairly uncommon to meet a woman in our society who genuinely loves her body.
Where she loves every aspect of her body unconditionally.
And doesn’t judge or criticize it, but seeks to care for it in the best way possible.
If you’re having trouble doing this for yourself, welcome to the club!
The majority of women in this world have serious trouble loving their bodies.
Which makes total sense.
In our culture, we’re not taught to love our bodies for the way they are – right now.
We’re taught that self-love is on the other side of weight loss or any other massive physical transformation.
Well, I’m here to shed some light on this subject.
And to let you know that not only is it possible for you to love your body right now…
…but it’s 100% necessary for you to get the results you want.
To do this for yourself, you first need to better understand where your current thoughts about your body come from.
If you’ve immersed yourself in the personal development realm, you’ve likely heard the phrase “your thoughts determine your reality”.
And while this can sound like some woo-woo fluffy mindset jargon, it’s actually very true in a sense.
Especially when it comes to the results we have with our bodies.
A thought you have about your body will create the results you have with it.
In other words, if you have thoughts that imply you feel negatively towards your body…
…you will attempt to take actions to change your body from a negative place.
Which won’t be enjoyable or sustainable.
On the other hand, if you choose thoughts that allow you to experience love for your body…
…you will take action to have a healthier body from a place of love.
Which will be rewarding and effortless.
When it comes to weight loss, or making our bodies healthier, it’s not the actions that are stopping us.
It’s our negative thoughts about our bodies.
These negative thoughts sabotage any chance we have of taking the right actions to become healthier.
And it’s likely that these negative thought patterns have been playing on a loop in your brain for years!
Therefore, it’s necessary to intentionally create new thoughts about our bodies that allow us to get the results we want.
In case you weren’t aware, the relationship you have with your body is simply a collection of thoughts you’re choosing to have.
Meaning, your thoughts are a choice.
You can decide exactly how you think and feel about your body.
So, that woman you see with limitless confidence and love for her body?
That woman made the conscious decision to think loving thoughts about her body.
Which created the feeling of confidence over time.
Eventually, she developed new neural pathways in her brain that made these thoughts part of her innate thinking patterns.
She now feels confidence effortlessly.
And you can do this for yourself with the right method.
The truth is, no one just feels love and confidence for their body automatically.
This comes from having specific thoughts about your body!
And this rule applies to every person you meet.
This is why the fittest woman in the world can have zero body confidence.
If she’s thinking negative body thoughts, she won’t act as if she genuinely loves her body.
So, now that you know this, you can work to create thoughts about your body that actually serve you.
You might be wondering how you’re supposed to actually believe these new, loving thoughts about your body.
And that would be an excellent question!
I mean, it’s not like your brain is actually capable of switching from “I hate my body” to “I love my body” in a single day.
This is unrealistic and that’s not what we’re doing here.
We’re not expecting to quick fix your brain into loving your body.
Not only is this not possible, but this doesn’t allow you to go through the process necessary to genuinely heal the relationship with your body.
Sidenote: this is why repeating affirmations does not work.
You cannot repeat a phrase or mantra every morning to change the results in your life.
When creating new body thoughts, you need to quite literally train your brain to think a different way.
Meaning, you’ll need to give your brain the time it needs to create new neural pathways.
Which is a process.
To give your brain the time it needs to do this, you can incorporate a practice called bridge thoughts.
Let me explain.
As we’ve mentioned, you can’t expect your body to immediately switch from a negative body thought to a positive body thought.
The reality is, these new thoughts won’t do you any good if your brain doesn’t believe them.
So, how do we intentionally choose a new thought that isn’t negative, but also isn’t unrealistic to your brain?
We create a bridge thought.
A bridge thought is a series of neutral thoughts that you will use to transition your brain from the negative body thought to the positive thought you want to experience.
To do this for yourself, you first want to think about the feeling you want to experience when it comes to your body.
As an example, let’s say that feeling is confidence.
You would then brainstorm what thought you’d need to think daily to cause that feeling of confidence in your body.
Perhaps this thought would be something along the lines of “I love my body”.
Then, you’re going to brainstorm what your current thoughts are about your body.
Let’s say as an example that thought is “I don’t like my body”.
So, now that you have both ends of the spectrum, you’re going to decide a bridge thought that is neutral.
Which could simply be something like “I have a body”.
This is the thought that you’re intentionally choosing to have.
It’s not negative or positive. It’s neutral.
And there’s no arguing this thought to your brain.
There is so much power in switching from a negative thought to a neutral thought.
This gives your brain the time it needs to detach from the negative thought patterns.
And makes it easy for your brain to believe the new thought pattern you’re choosing.
Eventually, your brain will make it a habit of thinking the bridge thought instead of the old negative thought.
At this point, you will then create the next bridge thought that leads you closer to the positive thought.
Which could then be “I am working on loving my body”.
See how this works?
Don’t underestimate the power of shifting from a negative body thought to a neutral body thought.
This is how you will rewire your brain to achieve positive body thoughts over time.
I speak to many women daily who want to heal their relationship with food and body.
And, to be totally honest, this self-love work is often the last thing on their minds!
It’s the most underrated topic in the health industry.
Which shouldn’t be the case, since it’s undeniably the most effective.
You have to love your body unconditionally before you’ll see the results you want with it.
There’s no arguing this.
This is just the way your brain and body work.
I hope what you learned here will cause you to prioritize your body thoughts.
So, you can intentionally create the relationship with your body you deserve.
I know you have everything it takes to do this for yourself.
Because the truth is, your body loves the hell out of you.
She’s just waiting for you to decide to love her in return.
Hey there! I'm Kat Rentas. I’m a certified eating psychology coach for women who believes that eating healthy should feel simple and sustainable. I teach hundreds of high-performing women to change their eating habits without the overwhelm. Want to change your eating habits in a way that is aligned with your needs, preferences, and goals? You’re in the right place. You can read my full story here.